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It’s about stepping out from the shadows…not shyly, hesitantly, cautiously, but bravely, boldly and proudly.

The world may deride you. But you should never deride yourself or see yourself as anything other than blessed to be who you are, doing what you do. Be great – Be beautiful – Be you

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“I just want to be happy.”

How many times have I said that to myself over the years? How many times have I found myself feeling unhappy, wondering why and what I can do to turn it around?

I do back flips to harness that elusive emotion. I desperately strive to make money, buy stuff I don’t need, change my appearance, or find the love of my live.

I work just as hard trying to prevent unhappiness by keeping the bad things at bay. If I try to control my live properly, maybe I won’t have to deal with debt, divorce, illness, disappointment, failure, or stress.

Hundreds of books have been written about happiness and how to create it. Researchers have studied it and found the areas in the brain that stimulate it. Even our founding fathers proclaimed the pursuit of it as an inalienable right. But that joyful emotion has a way of slipping in and out of our lives inexplicably. Some days we are brimming with it. Other days it feels we’ll never see it again.

Merriam-Webster defines happy as “feeling pleasure and enjoyment because of your life, situation, etc.” Pleasure and enjoyment. On the scale of good feelings, these are peak experiences. But is it possible to feel pleasure and enjoyment all the time? Can you feel it while washing the car? Doing the taxes? Visiting your in-laws? Maybe. But not likely. For most of us, these peak experiences aren’t daily events.

I think we long for the feelings of pleasure and enjoyment even more because they are so elusive. Most of these experiences are externally driven by life circumstances. But in between those experiences, must we settle for unhappiness or boredom?

No, there is another way. We can choose contentment as a way of life rather than constantly longing for our fix of happiness. Again according to Merriam-Webster, content means “pleased and satisfied : not needing more.” Now I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, “But I’ll always need more. I’ll always want to improve my life and circumstances.”

However, choosing contentment as a way of life doesn’t exclude self-improvement or having goals. But it does exclude the constant longing. It excludes pinning your satisfaction with the life you have now on some future achievement, material thing, or situation.

Contentment as a way of life means you actively choose to focus on the beauty, joy, love, creativity, and even the pain or sorrow of the moment without resistance. You accept what you are experiencing without negative judgements. You embrace the breadth of  the human experience in all of its expressions. Contentment may not be as dramatic as happiness, but it affords a more reliable sense of ease and peace of mind. It allows us to savour life fully, moment to moment, without experiencing the mental and emotional suffering of longing for something else. How can you create a life of contentment? Here are some thoughts:

Live with less.

Stop acquiring things. In fact, simplify what you have. Remove the mental and physical clutter from your life and focus on those things which truly enhance your life. We are trained to believe that the cure for unhappiness and discontent is to purchase something. But material things never address or cure the root of our discontentment. They only clutter our space and empty our bank accounts. Rather than returning to the habit of spending when you feel bad, take the time to examine why you truly feel bad and discontent.

See the good.

We spend far more time immersed in negative thoughts about our lives than we do seeing the beauty and good all around us. We focus on our problems, our lack, our suffering rather than allowing ourselves to focus on gratitude and joy for the amazing blessings in our lives. When you find yourself longing, ruminating about the bad stuff, stop yourself and intentionally choose something or someone you are grateful for and dwell on positive thoughts about this. Allow yourself to soak in the contentment and peace of gratitude.

Be in nature.

It’s hard to be unhappy when you are outside in a beautiful setting. Go for a hike, a bike ride, a day at the beach, a drive to the mountains. Have a picnic. Sit by a stream. When you are outside, take a few minutes to close your eyes. Breathe deeply and listen to the sounds of nature. The birds, the wind, the rustle of leaves, water lapping. Time in nature reminds us that contentment is just on the other side of our front door.

Give up comparisons.

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We look at what others have, how they look, who we perceive them to be, and we see ourselves as lacking in some way. Comparing yourself to others inevitably leads to discontentment and unhappiness. Most of the time, our perceptions are skewed anyway. Focus on the person you are and the person YOU want to become — not some image or standard defined by others. Be true to yourself and stop worrying about how other people live their lives.

Release judgement. 

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Another big source of discontentment is trying to control the people around us. We have standards or ideals for what we believe is right or good, and then we try to impose our standards on our spouse, children, family, and friends. We want them to think the way we think, believe what we believe, dress the way we think is appropriate, and spend money on things that are our priorities. When they don’t comply, we get upset and judge them as wrong or bad. Allow those around you to be themselves. Stop judging and accept them. If you simply can’t accept their choices or actions, or if they are making immoral or unethical choices, then release them from your life.

Accept yourself.

You are who you are right now. Accept that person. Just as you shouldn’t judge those around you, don’t judge yourself. You may not be your ideal self at this moment, but you can’t evolve into your ideal self when you are self-critical and shaming. Accept and love yourself today even as you strive to become better tomorrow. Remind yourself of all of the great and small things you’ve done to get to this point in your life. Acknowledge the love, kindness, and generosity you’ve shown. Commend your own hard work, creativity, and determination.

Keep growing.

Contentment doesn’t mean you stagnate. You can define who you want to be and what you want in life and work toward that while remaining content in the here and now. In fact your efforts toward growth and self-improvement can provide a great deal of joy and contentment. Every action you take toward improving your life can be a fulfilling and satisfying experience. Be content in your daily work, and when those moments of pure happiness grace us, we can welcome them from a place of calm and peace.

People often confuse happiness and contentment, and perhaps they are just different shades of the same positive emotion. However, mindful contentment practiced daily becomes a habit that fosters more and more peak happiness experiences.

As you are consciously satisfied with the life you have, you’re in a more confident, cantered position to enhance your future. You see clearly what you want, what is most important, and how to create that in your life.

From a position of contentment, you can build a life that is not only peaceful and satisfying, but also one that draws you toward choices and circumstances that afford a deeper level of pleasure and enjoyment based on living authentically and mindfully.

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Cold War

I believe that the purpose of life is to be happy.  From the moment of birth, every human being wants happiness and does not want suffering.  Neither social conditioning nor education nor ideology affect this.  From the very core of our being, we simply desire contentment.  I don’t know whether the universe, with its countless galaxies, stars and planets, has a deeper meaning or not, but at the very least, it is clear that we humans who live on this earth face the task of making a happy life for ourselves.  Therefore, it is important to discover what will bring about the greatest degree of happiness.

Ultimately, the reason why love and compassion bring the greatest happiness is simply that our nature cherishes them above all else. The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence. It results from the profound interdependence we all share with one another. However capable and skilful an individual may be, left alone, he or she will not survive. However vigorous and independent one may feel during the most prosperous periods of life, when one is sick or very young or very old, one must depend on the support of others.

My most courageous, empathised and the strongest man I know and love till the end of time…

POKKEL

my hubby

In honour to your dad, Dave Erasmus.

Dave, my hubbies dad, thinking of you tonight brings back memories of the waves of the Wild Coast

I think of you tonight, and of the endless beaches with your hands tight around the fishing rod

I think of rock castles, waterfalls down the edge of the Wilderness and Knysna forestry.

Weekend away with cattle tracks that’s struggling over the edge. I think of you as an idol and a father of greatness…

With thus all, I wish I could sing my song for you… I know you will understand the words…

Yes, I wish I could sing my song for you, and I know it would bring a spark in your eyes again

I think of you tonight, and of the Fish River Canyon… I’ve been thinking of you nights after nights, of twisting… twisting… twisting… thinking of rapids, of the cold winter nights, campfire evenings on the golden yellow sand

All I wish is that I could sing my song for you, and I know you would understand the words…

Yes, I wish I could sing my song for you and surely it would bring a spark in your eyes again

I think of you tonight, and fairy-tale land in pale white on a bright star league night, with white proteas on the slopes…

Sometimes more than once… we always need think and to consider the consequences of our actions… Think of people that we love and cherish should always be the number one priority.

Sometimes for a moment… and a moment longer… Just of you

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Love… Life…

Till the end of Time

Share my life, be my friend, as from until now until the end. I’ll try to comfort you in every step you take, for this love could grow stronger in a world where things go wrong, but together we can face what comes our way…

Dusk will come and nights will fall, but we will survive it all cause we chose, we chose the magic light to be our only guide. For this love could grow stronger in a world where things go wrong, but together completely we’ll believe in what we have

Share my life, for I can never live without you! You’re the one that I love, I am yours and it didn’t take me very long to see. This is nothing but love, so let’s share it… Till the end of time

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FAIRY TALES

Believing in fairytales is a good thing. If you believe that good things are coming your way, then believe it and share it. People will define you as this wide-eyed child-like naive being. Believe me, believing in fairytales and the hope of a Cinderella story is a happy thought.

Myself and the LOVE of my Life

Those who cherish their inner child, has been a very well-known accomplishment for helping one experience more love, joy, and peace. Those things that allows you to bring your inner child at peace would have you overcome the greatest mountains and you will find yourself becoming more confident and compassionate.

To climb out of my deepest darkest moments… It has to start from acknowledging, accepting, and beginning the ongoing process of re-parenting my inner child.

Me (age 5) left bottom corner – brothers and cousins

Heal and Nurture Your Inner Child – Say These 7 Things

1. I love you.

As children, a lot of us believed that we needed to accomplish goals—get good grades, make the team, fill our older siblings’ footsteps—to be lovable.

We may not have had parents who told us we deserved love, no matter what we achieved. Some of us may have had parents who considered showing love and tenderness to be a sign of weakness. But we can tell ourselves that we are loveable now.

Say it whenever you see yourself in the mirror. Say it in any random moments. Love is the key to healing, so give it to yourself.

2. I hear you.

Oftentimes when we feel hurt, we push down our feelings and try to act strong. For a lot of us, this stems from childhood, when we frequently heard, “Quit your crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.”

But those feelings don’t just go away. They fester inside of us, affecting the choices we make as adults until we make the conscious effort to hear them.

I never acknowledged that I felt abandoned when my mum left, but I did, and I carried that into my adult relationships. To heal, I had to acknowledge how her leaving affected me. I had to give a voice to all the pain I stuffed down back then.

Instead of suppressing the voice of your inner child, say, “I hear you. We’ll work through it. It’s going to be okay.”

3. You didn’t deserve this.

As children, many of us assumed that we deserved to be abused, shamed, or abandoned. We told ourselves that we were a bad kid, that we did something wrong.

But that’s simply not true. In many cases, the people who wounded us simply didn’t know any other way. Perhaps my mum was beaten as a child, so it was the only way she knew how to parent her daughter.

A child is innocent and pure. A child does not deserve to be abused, shamed, or abandoned. It’s not the child’s fault, and though we may not have had the capacity to understand this then, now, as adults, we do.

4. I’m sorry.

I’ve always been an overachiever. I considered slowing down a sign of weakness.

Not too long ago, I was constantly stressed about not doing enough. I couldn’t enjoy time with my kids because I’d be thinking about work.

One day it dawned on me that since I was a child I’d been pushing myself too hard. I never cut myself any slack. I would criticize myself if I simply wanted to rest. So I told my inner child I was sorry.

She didn’t deserve to be pushed so hard, and I don’t deserve it now as an adult either.

I’ve since allowed myself a lot more downtime, and my relationships with my loved ones have improved as a result.

5. I forgive you.

One of the quickest ways to destroy ourselves is to hold on to shame and regret.

Quoted – “The first night my mum returned home when I was fourteen, she asked to sleep with me. We only had two beds at that time, one for me and one for my dad. I couldn’t fall asleep, and I kept rolling around. Then all of a sudden, my mum blurted out, “Stop moving, you *sshole!”

The next day, I put a sign on my door that read “No Unauthorized Entry” to prevent her from coming in. My mum left again. Then, a few days after, my dad told me that they were getting a divorce (after being separated for eight years).

I thought it was my fault. Why did I have to roll around and so childishly put up a sign?

But now I know that their divorce wasn’t my fault. And I forgive myself for anything I could have done better. I was only a kid, and like everyone, I was and am human and imperfect.”

6. Thank you.

Thank your inner child for never giving up, for getting through the tough moments in life together with you with strength and perseverance.

Thank your inner child for trying to protect you, even if her way was holding on to painful memories.

Your inner child doesn’t deserve your judgment. S/he deserves your gratitude and respect.

7. You did your best.

As a child, I always tried to outperform, to overachieve, to meet someone else’s standard, to be “perfect.”

I was always demanding and cruel to myself, and no matter how well I did, I never felt it was good enough.

But I did the best I could at the time, and you did too. We’re still doing the best we can, and we deserve credit for that.

When we let go of perfection, the fear of failure recedes. Then we can allow ourselves to experiment 

Me (age 14) on the right – dad and brothers

What is the one thing you most want to say to your inner child today?

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TIME

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Monday, 16 August 2021  (SAST) 

Time in Bloubergstrand, Cape Town

When I was a little kid, I used to love spending time looking the newspaper comics, where I use to put my face right up to the pictures, being just amazed to find that it was just this mass of dots. I think spending time in relationships is like that sometimes. The longer we manage to spend time looking at the dots the soonest we realise it’s not just dots… Instead we’re all connected through the greatness of humanity, love and respect for on another and realising that it’s beautiful and it’s funny and it’s good. From this close, sometimes we can’t expect it to make sense, right now. But I like to think that from a greater prospective… spending time building relationships, even the littlest of connections… one day, all the dots will makes sense.

Married with well spent TIME

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When you first get married, your thoughts are full of all the fantastic things you’ll be able to do as a couple now that you have actually achieved the much-anticipated state of ‘spending the rest of our lives together’.

But so often in marriage, despite our best efforts, that dream of ‘spending the rest of our lives together’ does not always match the reality. Perhaps more often than not, it means little more than snatched moments together after work, or hurried spells between juggling meals, supermarket shopping or childcare. And then, when we do get that precious time together, a lot of our conversation and activity can centre on practicalities, plans or domestic chores. Time together, particularly quality time, can often end up being pretty scarce.

Being able to spend quality time together is important for a strong marriage, not least because it gives us the chance to talk. Whether we go for a long walk or a quick coffee, the key thing is that we have the opportunity to communicate well with each other. Now that doesn’t mean that we must always have ‘deep’ conversations whenever we have that elusive quality time together. But just having time out to ask each other about their day, or to find out their opinion on something, can make all the difference to the quality of our relationship. And as well as touching base with each other, time together gives us the opportunity to do activities we enjoy, build memories and renew our love.

But how do we make that quality time together actually happen? Many couples solve the problem by putting a ‘date night’ in their diary. Setting time aside in advance and prioritising it means that it is much more likely to happen than a vague suggestion that: ‘We should do something together sometime soon’. And sticking to a date also shows your commitment to one another; it says, ‘You matter to me. You are important, appreciated and loved.’

Date nights should be varied and include fun activities. A good way to keep them interesting is to take it in turns to plan them. As well as familiar favourites, doing new things together is a great way to stay connected, and it can recreate some of the feelings of excitement and interest that we experienced in courtship.

Spending quality time together is also a great way to build our friendship. It gives us shared interests as well as the opportunity to have fun and laugh together. All these experiences help to create closeness and exclusivity in our couple relationship.

Regularly setting aside time for one another is a small way to make a big impact on our relationship. All of us invest our time in the things that matter most to us, and our marriage relationship is no different: quality time together can transform a good marriage into a great one.

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ROOTS

Family is the greatest treasure, and family gives us our place in the world. We are real, and we all make mistakes; we ask for forgiveness, we fight, we help others, and we make a lot of noise. But we have patience, and we love each other. Family means home, and the comforting corner in which we take refuge.

Socioeconomic aspects of a family

At its best, the family performs various valuable functions for its members. Perhaps most important of all, it provides for emotional and psychological security, particularly through the warmth, love, and companionship that living together generates between spouses and in turn between them and their children. The family also provides a valuable social and political function by institutionalizing procreation and by providing guidelines for the regulation of sexual conduct. The family additionally provides such other socially beneficial functions as the rearing and socialization of children, along with such humanitarian activities as caring for its members when they are sick or disabled. On the economic side, the family provides food, shelter, clothing, and physical security for its members, some of whom may be too young or too old to provide for the basic necessities of life themselves. Finally, on the social side, the family may serve to promote order and stability within society as a whole.

The ultimate goal of family time is to create opportunities for all members of the family to love and understand each other, in the process growing happy, well-adjusted children.

The key to spending positive family time together that will enhance positive relationships, is to give your full attention. Don’t schedule family time if your mind has to be elsewhere.

Encourage quality family time:

  • Get out in the great outdoors – go hiking, take a picnic, fishing, surfing or just being outdoors together.
  • Playing board games place an emphasis on sportsmanship and fun.
  • Sport – watch or play sports together.
  • Being actively present

Family meal time – sitting down to eat together each night can be a great way of opening up discussion. Asking about each family member’s favourite part of their day is a great conversation starter that prompts positive discussion.

The following benefits could further reinforce the importance of family time:

  1. Fosters communication
    Being together as a family creates opportunities to have important family discussions. Your children are more likely to open up to you if you’re spending quality time together away from your normal routines. Maybe they have questions they want answered or are having troubles and seek your advice. Spending time together could be all the encouragement they need to ask you a tough question they’ve been pondering on or open up about an issue that is troubling them.
  2. Helps build confidence and self-esteem
    Spending quality time together provides an opportunity for parents to discover what their children’s strengths and weaknesses are. It also opens the door to sharing new experiences together which can help build confidence and improve self-esteem. The more opportunities a child has to experience and excel at various activities, the greater the self-confidence will be.
  3. Provides opportunities to role model
    Parents are a child’s greatest and most influential teacher. Spending time as a family, provides parents with the opportunity to role model the behaviour that they expect of their children. It’s important for children to see how their parents cope with risks, problems and social interactions. We all grow into versions of our own parents at some point!
  4. Teaches children vital social skills
    Good social skills are essential in adolescence. It can be challenging for teenagers to understand appropriate social behaviour and navigate sticky social situations. Spending quality time as a family allows the opportunity for children to practice social skills at home in a natural context. Playing board games together can help children to resolve conflict and come to a mutual understanding, for example.
  5. Provides bonding opportunities
    There is no doubt that creating shared memories together goes a long way toward strengthening family ties and bonds. Trying new experiences, supporting one another and communicating are positive steps toward building healthy relationships.
  6. Improves mental health
    When spending time together, children can voice their thoughts and feelings and seek advice about issues that have been troubling them. Participating in happy, shared experiences can also have a profound effect on mental wellbeing. Experiencing the great outdoors and enjoying positive social interactions are known to reduce stress hormones and help the body become calm.
  7. Helps a child feel loved
    If a child has your undivided attention, it signals that they are loved and important to you. This can be further nurtured by experiencing joyful activities together, as it demonstrates that you want to spend time with your children over and above all of the daily demands.

Blood is thicker than water 

Blood is thicker than water is a medieval proverb in English. The correct saying is blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb, that actually means the opposite of what we believed. It means the bond that you’ve made by choice is thicker than the bonds you have (blood relations).The oldest record of this saying can be traced back in the 12th century in German.

We, in the West, are accustomed to say that “blood is thicker than water” ; but the Arabs have the idea that blood is thicker than milk, than a mother’s milk. With them, any two children nourished at the same breast are called “milk-brothers,” or “sucking brothers”; and the tie between such is very strong. [..] But the Arabs hold that brothers in the covenant of blood are closer than brothers at a common breast; that those who have tasted each other’s blood are in a surer covenant than those who have tasted the same milk together ; that “blood-lickers,” as the blood-brothers are sometimes called, are more truly one than “milk-brothers,” or “sucking brothers”; that, indeed, blood is thicker than milk, as well as thicker than water.

Finalizing the meaning of family to me is that the only human beings one could ever call your own,  to feel that you belong to another human being, is family. Treasure them and keep their spirits high.

Till the end of TIME

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Boys don’t Cry

We teach our children that they need to learn how to share so they can make and keep friends, play cooperatively, take turns, negotiate and cope with disappointment. Sharing teaches children about compromise and fairness. They learn that if we give a little to others, we can get some of what we want too.

Sharing is a key part of getting along with others, so it becomes more and more important when your child starts having playdates and going to child care, preschool or kindergarten.

Teaching sharing from a young age with the murre effect of ‘sharing toys, etc’, would have been the ultimate task of sharing and be the base line to acceptance in society…

BUT soon that becomes a struggling fact that no one ever taught us that adulthood expect even more whilst living among each other… sharing becomes one of the most complexed things in one’s day to day livelihood… becoming more demanding and self-centred. Though we were taught to share many ‘earthly’ things as children, no one ever taught to share physically, sexually, emotionally, financially and spiritually to become strong enough so we could thrive as species and become greater than the ‘norm’

Physically

The meaning of Physical brings me to, bodily, corporeal, corporal agree in pertaining to the body. Physical indicates connected with, pertaining to, the animal or human body as a material organism: physical strength, exercise. Bodily means belonging to, concerned with, the human body as distinct from the mind or spirit: bodily pain or suffering.

Sexually

 Being sexually comfortable in your sexuality has to do with the way you identify, how you experience sexual and romantic attraction (if you do), and your interest in and preferences around sexual and romantic relationships and behaviour.  Who your sexual or romantic partner is at a given moment in time doesn’t necessarily define this part of who you are. 

Emotionally

Social sharing of emotions can be defined as an “interpersonal process” wherein, after an emotional event, “individuals will initiate interpersonal behaviours in which discussing this event and their reactions to it is central”.In other words, the social sharing of emotions is the process of reactivating the emotion at a more symbolic level, all taking place as part of ensuing interpersonal interactions

Financially

We’ve seen that ‘food is always on the table’… But in the bigger picture there are  so many strategies to achieve financial independence, each with their own benefits and drawbacks. Someone who wishes to achieve financial independence can be taught that it’s helpful to have a financial plan and budget, so that they have a clear view of their current incomes and expenses, and can identify and choose appropriate strategies to move towards their financial goals. A financial plan addresses every aspect of a person’s finances to be financially content

Spiritually

Going to the church on time was always my believe as a child… however I’ve learned that Spirituality is a broad concept with room for many perspectives. In general, it includes a sense of connection to something bigger than ourselves, and it typically involves a search for meaning in life. As such, it is a universal human experience—something that touches us all. People may describe a spiritual experience as sacred or transcendent or simply a deep sense of aliveness and interconnectedness.

Some may find that their spiritual life is intricately linked to their association with a church, temple, mosque, or synagogue. Others may pray or find comfort in a personal relationship with God or a higher power. Still others seek meaning through their connections to nature or art. Like your sense of purpose, your personal definition of spirituality may change throughout your life, adapting to your own experiences and relationships.

We share what we know but we will forever live in what we experience in the sharing of kindness, love and respect for the sake of being YOU. 

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Pancakes

SHOULD WE AS HUMANS CONSIDER THAT FOLLOWING THE CORRECT RECIPE OF BAKING PANCAKES TO HAVE THE PERFECT BAKED ONES – WE MIGHT ACTUALLY REALISE THAT FOLLOWING THE 7 RULES OF THE BIBLE WILL BRING ALL BEINGS TOGETHER IN HARMONY THROUGH GREATER LOVE AND RESPECT FOR ONE-ANOTHER.

The Seven Rules of Bible Interpretation:
“When two Bible interpretations are claimed for a Scripture, the construction most in agreement with all the facts of the case should be adopted. When all the facts of an interpretation are in agreement they sound together in harmony, like notes in a chord.
“Biblical interpretation is more than knowing a set of rules, but it cannot be done without the rules. So, learn the rules, and rightly apply them….”

1) The rule of DEFINITION: What does the word mean? Any study of Scripture must begin with a study of words. Define your terms and then keep to the terms defined. The interpreter should conscientiously abide by the plain meaning of the words. This quite often may require using a Hebrew/English or Greek/English lexicon in order to make sure that the sense of the English  translation  is understood. A couple of good examples of this are the Greek words “allos” and “heteros”. Both are usually translated as “another” in English – yet “allos” literally means “another of the same type” and “heteros” means “another of a different type.”

2) The rule of USAGE: It must be remembered that the Old Testament was written originally by, to and for Jews. The words and idioms must have been intelligible to them – just as the words of Christ when talking to them must have been. The majority of the New Testament likewise was written in a milieu of Greco-Roman (and to a lesser extent Jewish) culture and it is important to not impose our modern usage into our interpretation. It is not worth much to interpret a great many phrases and histories if one’s interpretations are shaded by pre-conceived notions and cultural biases, thereby rendering an inaccurate and ineffectual lesson.

3) The rule of CONTEXT: The meaning must be gathered from the context. Every word you read must be understood in the light of the words that come before and after it. Many passages will not be understood at all, or understood incorrectly, without the help afforded by the context. A good example of this is the Mormon practice of using 1 Corinthians 8:5 “…for there be gods many and lords many…” as a “proof text” of their doctrine of polytheism. However, a simple reading of the whole verse in the context of the whole chapter (e.g. where Paul calls these gods “so-called”), plainly demonstrates that Paul is not teaching polytheism.

4) The rule of HISTORICAL BACKGROUND: The interpreter must have some awareness of the life and society of the times in which the Scripture was written. The spiritual principle will be timeless but often can’t be properly appreciated without some knowledge of the background. If the interpreter can have in his mind what the writer had in his mind when he wrote – without adding any excess baggage from the interpreter’s own culture or society – then the true thought of the Scripture can be captured resulting in an accurate interpretation. Oliver Wendell Holmes said, “Our only interest in the past is for the light it throws upon the present.”

5) The rule of LOGIC: Interpretation is merely logical reasoning. When interpreting Scripture, the use of reason is everywhere to be assumed. Does the interpretation make sense? The Bible was given to us in the form of human language and therefore appeals to human reason – it invites investigation. It is to be interpreted as we would any other volume: applying the laws of language and grammatical analysis. As Bernard Ramm said:

“What is the control we use to weed out false theological speculation? Certainly the control is logic and evidence… interpreters who have not had the sharpening experience of logic…may have improper notions of implication and evidence. Too frequently such a person uses a basis of appeal that is a notorious violation of the laws of logic and evidence.” (Protestant Biblical Interpretation, Boston:W. A. Wilde, 1956)

6) The rule of PRECEDENT: We must not violate the known usage of a word and invent another for which there is no precedent. Just as a judge’s chief occupation is the study of previous cases, so must the interpreter use precedents in order to determine whether they really support an alleged doctrine.

Consider the Bereans in (Acts 17:10-12) who were called “noble” because they searched the Scriptures to determine if what Paul taught them was true.

7) The rule of INFERENCE: An inference is a fact reasonably implied from another fact. It is a logical consequence. It derives a conclusion from a given fact or premise. It is the deduction of one proposition from another proposition. Such inferential facts or propositions are sufficiently binding when their truth is established by competent and satisfactory evidence. Competent evidence means such evidence as the nature of the thing to be proved admits. Satisfactory evidence means that amount of proof which would ordinarily satisfy an unprejudiced mind beyond a reasonable doubt. Jesus used this rule when he proved the resurrection of the dead to the unbelieving Sadducees in (Matthew 22:23-33).

Learning these seven rules and properly applying them will help keep any interpreter from making errors and will hopefully alleviate many of the disagreements unfortunately present in Christianity today.

(Proverbs 1:5-6) “A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels: to understand a proverb, and the interpretation.”

(2 Peter 1:20-21) “… no prophecy of the scripture is of any private interpretation. For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved [Gk. Phero, “to be carried (along)”] by the Holy Spirit”.

(1 Corinthians 14:37) “… the things that I [the  Apostle  Paul] write unto you are the commandments of the Lord”.

(John10:35) “According to Jesus, “the scripture cannot be broken”.

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PANCAKES

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Ingredients

  • 1 cup all-purpose flour
  • 2 tablespoons white sugar
  • 2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 1 egg, beaten
  • 1 cup milk
  • 2 tablespoons vegetable oil
Directions
  • Step 1

In a large bowl, mix flour, sugar, baking powder and salt. Make a well in the centre, and pour in milk, egg and oil. Mix until smooth.

  • Step 2

Heat a lightly oiled griddle or frying pan over medium high heat. Pour or scoop the batter onto the griddle, using approximately 1/4 cup for each pancake. Brown on both sides and serve hot.

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Beautiful ME

Sound of Silence

“If God had a name what would it be?
And would you call it to his face?
If you were faced with Him in all His glory
What would you ask if you had just one question?”

Whether I’m designing or writing, I want to do provoking work rather than sit in the corner silent. If everyone’s nodding their heads and agreeing with me, I’m not trying hard enough. And I’m certainly not being honest.

I’ve always believed that provoking your audience was something to strive for as a creative person. Provoking means standing out. Challenging social norms. Making a difference. But with the desire to provoke comes fear. The word “provoke” has negative connotations for a reason. To provoke is to incite a feeling, and often that feeling is anger.

Many great artists provoked society. Édouard Manet with his nude paintings, Pablo Picasso with his artistic condemnation of fascism, Jackson Pollock with his painting style itself. These artists are remembered for their controversial works of art. They upset a lot of people during their time. It’s what set them apart.

Indeed we as a society believes in Realism, in the arts, the accurate, detailed, unembellished depiction of nature or of contemporary life. Realism rejects imaginative idealization in favour of a close observation of outward appearances. As such, realism in its broad sense has comprised many artistic currents in different civilizations and resent the idea of believing in fairy tales.

Believing in fairy tales is a good thing. If you believe that good things are coming your way, then believe it and share it. People will define you as this wide-eyed child-like naive being. Believe me, believing in fairy tales and the hope of a Cinderella story is a happy thought.

The definition of a fairy tale is a story, often with a moral or happy ending. … An example of a person living in a fairy tale world is someone who imagines that every problem she has will solve itself magically tomorrow.

For this we need to live and let live… till the end of time

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Beautiful ME

Parenting

mom and me

Sometimes we’re right, sometimes we’re wrong, it’s true. From across the table, not being a ‘human’ parent, I’ve learned the most important job in life is to be moms and dads every day, which leaves footprints and forming people, good people. Testing of ones humanity, day by day… That isn’t easy. I see all stumbled and fall, but everyone has the responsibility to stand back up, know how to clean their wounds and apologize. They must fight against their tiredness, sorrows, fears, unresolved situations. 

my most favourite girls

I’ve also seen the unfortunate side where moms and dads has the intent to blame their kids for their ‘misfortunes’… attacking the innocent for their sorrows, fears and broken hearts.

Never imprint the blame on your kids… from personal, sexual or religious preferences…

They’re not to blame for breaking the condom or failing the birth control pill. Or, they just don’t have fault that you haven’t taken care of yourself responsibly.

Your kids aren’t at fault for your childhood wounds!

Your kids aren’t to blame for the bad day you had!

Your kids aren’t to blame for your partner problems!

Your kids are not to blame for your frustrations!

Your kids aren’t to blame for the bad times in your work!

They came to heal, to teach you to love in a way you never imagined. They came to give a meaning to your life that maybe you didn’t have before. To teach you to be strong and resilient, to fight and get ahead every day.

It’s your obligation as moms and dads, to give them a STABLE, HEALTHY, QUIET, magical childhood contained in humanity, kisses, hugs and to be present.

Let’s be present moms and dads, caring, busy and concerned WITH and FOR your kids. In them will be the love you put on this road during their childhood. That’s the only inspirational thing that will be left.

myself, hubby, mom and dad

They deserve all your respect and much LOVE 💕